Today in (former) “brides behaving badly,” meet Sasha. Or, more accurately, her sister.
Writes Sasha:
I’m getting married in April of next year, and I just fell in love with a wedding dress. Yay! The problem is, my big sister feels the dress is too similar to the wedding dress she wore five years ago. She says she’s “hurt.” My mom says the dress I love looks gorgeous on me, but she’s torn. Is it wrong of me to wear a wedding dress that looks like my sister’s?
Here are our thoughts:
Oh, for God’s sake, no. Buy the dress you love. And now please allow us a word with your sister.
Dear Big Sister:
Brides get a day—ONE day. Not a week or a month or a season, certainly not a year. And definitely not a six-year stretch after their wedding day. You also don’t get to “own” the style of wedding dress you wore. Sorry.
At the end of the day, wedding dresses—especially the popular silhouettes—kind of all blur together. Sure, your wedding was the most important day of your life, but to 98 percent of the people there, it was one of many, many weddings they’ve attended in the past six years. No one remembers a wedding dress they saw before iPads existed. And even if they do, it’s hardly shocking to see two brides walk down the aisle in, say, an A-line wedding dress with an illusion neckline over a six-year span.
The only time you can call “Bitch Stole My Look” is if your wedding dress was super-duper unique. If you were married in a gown like this one, from Theia’s spring 2016 runway, then we can see how you’d be a little miffed.
If that’s the case, then—and only then—maybe you could very sweetly ask your kid sister to keep shopping. But if your dress was, for the most part, mainstream, you don’t have a case. (If you can find something similar at David’s Bridal or J.Crew now, it’s mainstream.)