Writes Save the Date reader Jacqueline:
My boyfriend and I met online and have been dating for a year and a half. It took him a LONG time to say "I love you," and that only happened AFTER my ex hacked into his email account and found emails he was exchanging with women from dating sites.
My current guy says he never cheated, and the only reason he was talking to other women was that he was worried I was going to go back to my ex, but he loves me. (That was his first "I love you.") I'm not sure if he meant it or if he felt like he HAD to say it because he got caught, but now he keeps bringing up marriage—like, every week. But he hasn't proposed yet.
I just smile and say nothing, but I'm wondering: Is he really going to propose? Or is he just leading me on?
Here are my thoughts:
Um, what? Who CARES if this guy proposes? Do you want to marry a guy who was talking to multiple other women behind your back? Sure, he didn't cheat, but he was setting himself up to cheat.
And side note: Why was your ex-boyfriend hacking into your current boyfriend's email account? That's both illegal AND creepy. And I'm wondering if you let your current guy know that your ex broke into his email account. Because if Rory ever said, "I had my ex hack your email account, and " I'd be outta here before he even finished the sentence.
Clearly you both have SERIOUS trust issues. (Another question: If he was worried you were going to leave him, why was his instinct to start the groundwork for a new relationship instead of talking with the woman he "loves"?) Based on all the lies and deceit in your short shared past, I think it would be a stretch for the two of you to build a future together. I think your best move would be to break up with this guy—and then look for someone who you trust enough to stay out of his email account.
Ladies, what do you think? Should Jacqueline stick around and see if this guy proposes? Or is it time to move on?
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